Relationship

I believe, I'm qualified to answer as I'm adequately occupied in job, married and still follow my passion while “trying” to meet life partner's expectations.

The myths:

  1. People work for 12 hrs everyday (productively!)

  2. No time for self or family

My observations:

  1. Those who spend longer time in office end up taking longer breaks, frequently

  2. New people take longer to solve problems as most of their time goes in (a) Understanding the actual problem (b) Finding ways to get the solution

  3. Inevitable travel time might make it a long day but there are ways to curtail it, though I agree that it -

    1. Might not be possible to everyone

    2. Might not be possible everyday

The aim should be to have a balanced life and let me tell you it's all upon individuals to set the priorities right and to strive to stick to those priorities.

There will definitely be exceptions but it will have to be for short period, not made a habit.

Let me give you some facts from my corporate life to make you feel that I'm not just preaching. Most of the tasks below, I did, spanned pre+post my marriage

  1. I got married 4 years ago and have 2 kids with 2 yrs gap in both the kids (The momentum gained in office to be productive, couldn't be lost while at home too …lol)

    1. I was with my wife during her both the pregnancies for entire 9 months (thought to mention as Indian tradition is to send wife to her mother's place for delivery).

  2. I try to follow office timings and avoid staying late or starting late for most of the months in a year. If I get extra work, I cut my break time to end the day on time. I follow this rigorously irrespective of whether there is anyone watching me or not.

    1. I completed my MBA -Finance while in job + married. I completed almost 5 industry certifications. Possible due to wife's support.

  3. Along with I writing a bulky novel, 160+ Quora answers, I managed to write poems for her.

  4. I managed to read some bulky books - Bhagvad-Gita , Shiv Puran, Sai Charitra, Gajanan Maharaj pothi post marriage. Because she took care of the home with minimal time commitment from my side.

  5. My wife and I had a vacation in Vancouver Canada and Dubai (on-site travel). My colleagues have had frequent onsites/self-sponsored foreign trips with their partners. All due to private job.

    1. My parents and sisters do acknowledge that I give them too sufficient time. I had regular short visits to shrines/holy places in Maharashtra, with my family. My colleagues/friends go out more often, on long trips. [I prefer home; even since I was unmarried;-) ]

      1. My ‘difficult-to-please’ father named me ‘shravan baal' after we came out of a difficult family emergency recently.

    2. My wife does crib that I don't give her enough time but I have understood now that it's an encrypted questions, “its a weekend, let's go out!”. But yes, I could have taken her to more places if I had cut short on my passion. It's the private sector job that enables us to spend on these trips from our pockets.

So, to summarize, even after slogging in job, we still have enough time for ourselves and family. It's only about managing our time wisely and setting priorities right.

Edit:

  1. My wife and I supported each other in the most turbulent times that I went through this year (2021). And my private job did help me in numerous ways to cope with it. Hence, everything is important in life, not just job or not just life partner. But, they both together make life meaningful and bearable. And that's why it's fine to bear their ‘occasional’ tantrums.

  2. I'm editing this answer while making my 3 yrs old son sleep in my arms after he vomited due to cough. While my wife is preparing home remedies for him. The “hairy" hand is mine 😋

Hope this helps. Have a great day ahead!

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I'm editing this answer while making my 3 yrs old son sleep in my arms after he vomited due to cough. While my wife is preparing home remedies for him. The “hairy" hand is mine 😋